Concerned about a Roommate
- I don't know my new roommate that well, but I'm worried because I've noticed she spends a lot of time in the bathroom and has cuts that she covers up with clothes. Should I say something or tell someone?
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Yes, in this situation telling someone is a very good idea. I would especially encourage you to talk to someone who is likely to know how to get your roommate the help she needs -- like an RA or residence hall director. If you are unable or uncomfortable doing this, you can call the counseling and psychological services office on your campus and explain ...
College Social Life
- I had a perception that college would be different, but noticed people were forming groups of friends immediately or they were already part of one from their previous school. It's been a month and a half and I haven't connected with anyone. I feel very lonely and alienated because I don't know anyone on a personal level at school. I don't know if feeling like a fish out of water still is normal. When I try to talk to people, I come off as awkward and "dorky". When I pass people, I try to smile, but they look right past me. If it helps to know this, I'm a commuter student. Please help?
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Feeling unconnected and alone is certainly a common experience at the beginning of college and you can be sure that there are many other students who are also trying to develop new relationships. As a commuter student, you have less opportunity for out of classroom connections and while this makes for less natural contact time, it does not preclude developing ...
- I've been at school for almost a whole semester but the only people I really talk to are my friends on Facebook, most of them from back home. I sometimes make plans to go to events or social things, but I always get really nervous and freaked out the day of and end up not going. Is it normal to be so freaked out about meeting new people?
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Almost all people feel somewhat anxious and nervous when they attend social gatherings or parties with lots of people they do not know. It is very easy to feel a “spotlight” on you when you enter the room…that feeling where you feel as if everybody is looking at you, scrutinizing you, maybe even judging you. But the truth of the matter ...
- So I'm a first year college student....at a college an hour and a half from home. I sort of realized I needed help/someone to talk to yesterday and I was talking to a friend of mine and she said how the counselors were really helpful. I emailed their office and asked about their privacy policy on if my parents would call out here. I found that they cant tell anyone that I've even been there. Thank god! So I made an appointment. Problem is, I'm scared to death of counselors. But yet I know I need help because I'm an ex-cutter that told noone before and now that I'm under so much pressure I want to do it again but yet I don't want to/want to be suicidal. So my questions is how do I calm my nerves about talking to a counselor? How do I trust them? The ones in high school you couldnt trust at all. They'd tell your parents. How do I become okay with talking with them when I know I need to?
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It is really great that you listened to your friend and reached out to the school counseling office. As you begin college, it is really important to realize that the way things work is somewhat different from your experience in high school. I assume you are more than 18 years old and because of that, the college counselors cannot contact your parents ...
Transferring
- I just started my freshman year, and I feel like I chose the wrong college. I don't know how to tell my parents, or how I could transfer since they were so excited about me going here. Something about this school is really depressing me, and I'm not usually a depressed person. Maybe I should just stick it out. Who should I talk to first?
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I’m sorry that your college experience is thus far not what you were hoping for. You’ve identified “something about this school” making you depressed but don’t specify if it is the classes, the social life, or something else. It may be that you didn’t even want to go to that school, but are there for some other reason, ...